Would You Chase the Dream Guy or the Dream Job?

We live in a world that is run by the powerful fuel called ambition. Whether it is focused on getting the guy or whether it is focused on getting the job, ambition remains a powerful substance. If you have it, you feel it pulsing in every nerve of your body.
It can be so powerful that it can dictate your every move, your every decision and ultimately it can land you that guy you have been hung up on (believe me it is possible) or the job you have been dreaming of since childhood.
If you find yourself in the predicament of either having to choose one or the other, something is out of balance and you have got to figure out what it is and how you are going to deal with it – either he is expecting you to shove your dream in a box (or boxes, if you are as ambitious as I am) or your dream is so big that it is calling for you to sacrifice your relationship with him.
The latter happened to me. Although the dream turned a corner in my case, it all worked out for the better: the innocent victim of an ambitious woman turned out to be a cheater – surprise, surprise.
No matter which one it is, the reality of the matter is, many times you will be called upon to make a choice and it is important that you weigh each option and base the decision on all the information that you have at hand.
Here are two things you have to take to into consideration when you find yourself at this crossroad:

Chasing the dream guy

 

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First of all, why is he running? Is he running because you are not paying enough attention to him or is he running because he is intimidated by your ability to dream independently from him? If he really loves you, he will not make you choose.
Instead of running away from you, he will run to you and fight for you. He will tell you when he is unhappy or unsatisfied and then the both of you can figure out a system of working things out together.
Chasing a guy because he feels neglected or because your dream career makes him feel insecure will only end in heartache – for you both, and frankly it is humiliating and exhausting. A man of character and dignity, a man that is truly worth your beautiful heart, will not run away – remember that.
If you do decide to run after him, you will find the dynamics have drastically changed. He might smooth things over for the next few months, trying to persuade you into thinking you made the right decision.
Nevertheless, you will eventually find that your independence and free will has slowly been sucked out of you and you will find yourself in a position of submission. You might be present physically, but your heart and soul will always be somewhere else.
If this happens, he clearly was not the one and you have to remind yourself that there is always a way out; there is always a way to start over.
Also read: 8 Reasons to stop waiting for him to make the First Move (click below)
http://viyke.blogspot.com.ng/p/8-reasons-to-stop-waiting-for-him-to.html